How to find the Right One

People are constantly searching for Mr or Mrs Right.

The True Love.

The Only One.

Someone that will change their life for ever. And that they will live happily ever after with.

And they never succed. Almost never.

And yet, if you think about it - surely there are uglier, poorer and more disgusting people than yourself having happy relationships?

This is how I think it is:

First, people are constantly putting themselves down.

You see flaws and imperfections in yourselves, that others never see - or maybe even thinks of as advantages.

That can be anything from physcial attributes like height, weight, sizes of breasts or sexual organs, shape of nose, lips, eyes, color of hair and to inner attributes, way of talking or laughing, humour, behaviour ... well, you probably can expand the list.

Of course - nobody is perfect.

Those flaws that one have, you can deal with in different ways.

Some tries surgery. They buy themselves bigger breasts, instead of working with their self esteem.

Others use them as excuses. "Oh no, I have a too spotty face - I can´t take that fun job."

Or some tries to accept those you can´t do anything about, and work with those that are possible.

Secondly, the belief that it is always someone better out there.

Some people constantly searches for the greener grass on the other side. They are critising their partner, finding faults with him or her, comparing to others (who do the same).

It can be someones looks, habits, profession, salary, way of behavour ... and also here I am sure you can expand this list. Oddly enough, some of those things that they berate are the same that made them fall for this person in the first place. Or maybe things that they both have in common.

So, there you have the forumula:

A person who are dissatisfied with himself or herself, and dissatisfied with his or her partner.
Someone whos life is not as good as he or she imagined.

And so he or she looks for someone else. The Knight in Shining Armor. The person who will transform their grey everyday to an eternal orgasm.

Of course this will always fail.

My advice:

Accept yourself.
Accept your partner, if you are lucky enough to have one.

Of course, there are behaviour that are never acceptable. Abuse, or infidelity. Disloyalty, dishonesty.

Note: These are advices from a short, ugly, fat old man with several crashed relationships behind him. So - take it for what you may find it worth.

Translated and expanded from a post I did at the Swedish Flashback Forum
http://forum.flashback.info/scandinavia/showpost.php?p=2687168&postcount=16